Your Personal Playbook

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​This is an excerpt from my book, How To Set Boundaries (Without Feeling Like a D*ck)—a guide for anyone ready to speak up, honour their needs, and feel more grounded in their relationships.

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Your Personal Playbookmight not be an expert in football, I do know that a team’s success hinges not just on individual talent, but on how well everyone understands and executes their roles. This is where the team playbook comes in.

A playbook outlines strategies, defines each player’s responsibilities, and provides plans for different game scenarios; it ensures that every player knows their position and how they contribute to the overall team effort. Without a playbook, the team would be disorganized, players would be unsure of their roles, and the game would be chaos.

Now, think of your life as a football game and yourself as both the coach and the player. Your internal boundaries are like your own personal playbook. Just as a playbook provides structure and direction to a football team, your internal boundaries give structure and direction to your life; they define your values, needs, and limits, allowing you to be able to navigate whatever life throws at you.

For example, a playbook helps the quarterback know when to pass, run, or hand off the ball, depending on the defense they face. Similarly, your internal boundaries can help you decide when to say yes or no, when to push forward, or when to step back, depending on the challenges you encounter. These internal boundaries ensure that you stay aligned with your true self, making choices that reflect your values and protect Who You Are.

So, what goes into your life playbook? What standards and guidelines can you set to make sure Who You Are is how you show up in the world? The beauty of it is that you get to decide!

Your internal boundaries are a reflection of your own unique values, needs, and priorities which means they are one hundred percent in your realm of control and fully up to you.

Think about what’s most important to you. What values do you hold dear? What are your non-negotiables? These elements form the foundation of your internal boundaries. For instance, consider how you manage your time and energy. Do you allow yourself enough rest and self-care? Do you set limits on how much of yourself you give to others?

Knowing the answers to these questions is an important part of honoring Who You Are.
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