Your Inner Bouncer

​This is an excerpt from my book, How To Set Boundaries (Without Feeling Like a D*ck)—a guide for anyone ready to speak up, honour their needs, and feel more grounded in their relationships.

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Imagine your unconscious mind as the bouncer for an exclusive club. This bouncer is responsible for making sure only the right guests get in, keeping the atmosphere inside the club positive and enjoyable.

Most of the time, your unconscious mind does a great job, but sometimes it gets confused and lets in the wrong crowd. When that happens, the club begins to fill up with unwelcome guests like other people’s opinions, judgements or fears making it hard to enjoy yourself and find peace.

To keep your club's atmosphere just right, you need to help your bouncer recognize who truly belongs and who to keep out.

How can you do this? The answer, of course, is boundaries.

Think of your boundaries as a VIP guest list for your brain. Just like a bouncer uses a list to decide who to let in and who to keep out, your unconscious mind uses your boundaries to determine which thoughts, opinions, and emotions are allowed to take up space in your life and what makes it past your brain's filters.

By clearly defining what is and isn't acceptable in your life, you can shape your inner world and drastically shift your reality.

So, if you thought boundaries was just about saying 'No' without feeling guilty—think again.
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