Signs You Need Better Boundaries

Still on the fence about whether or not you actually need better boundaries in your life? Here are some signs that the boundaries you have are no longer working for you:

• You often say "Yes" to others, even when everything inside you is urging you to say "No."
• You bend over backward to keep others happy, even at the expense of your own well-being.
• When someone hurts or frustrates you, you keep quiet, bottling up your feelings and storing away unspoken thoughts.
• You prioritize everyone else’s needs over your own and often feel burned out, overwhelmed and exhausted.
• You constantly agree to others’ demands while your own energy and time are stretched thin.
• You feel like you have to walk on eggshells and hold back your true thoughts and opinions to avoid conflict.
• You often feel overlooked, unappreciated, or like you don’t quite belong in social settings.
• You hesitate to ask for help, fearing you might be a burden to others.
• You struggle to say "No," even when you are feeling overwhelmed, because you don’t want to disappoint anyone.
• You feel guilty for taking time for yourself, as if you should always be available for others.
• You believe you need to earn love and approval by constantly giving, doing, or being "perfect."
• You often put your own dreams and desires on hold to support others in achieving theirs.
• You find yourself constantly apologizing, even when it’s not your fault, just to keep the peace.
• You feel responsible for other people’s happiness, often at the cost of your own.
• You notice that you often end up doing more than your fair share, whether at work or in personal relationships, because it feels easier than saying "No."

​​This is an excerpt from my book, How To Set Boundaries (Without Feeling Like a D*ck)—a guide for anyone ready to speak up, honour their needs, and feel more grounded in their relationships.
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